Twelve things that ruin a first impression immediately. Sscientists have proven that we form our first impression about someone within the first seven seconds of meeting them, and there are definitely certain factors that can instantly make or break it. Are you ready to find out what you should and shouldn’t do in order to leave a good first impression on other people ? Then keep on watching… But before we start, don’t forget to subscribe to our channel and turn on notifications so that you’ll always be the first to see all our new videos. Number 12 : a weak handshake. This point couldn’t be more important for anyone with an upcoming job interview. A flimsy handshake can be a real first impression killer. In his research, psychologist William F. Chaplin found that people with a weak handshake are instantly judged as being shy, anxious, uninterested, or, even completely incompetent ! That’s definitely not how you want others to see you, is it ? Another common mistake people make, is holding someone’s hand for too long. Awkward ! If you’re gonna give the right impression of confidence AND capability, remember to grip the other person’s hand firmly, and for no longer than two seconds. That’ll put you on the road to success ! Number 11 : Keeping your hands in the wrong position. If you’re ever sitting in front of a group of people, whether it be at a business meeting, or at some conference, you’ve got to be mindful of where you keep your hands… You can put them on your lap, but never keep them in your pockets, because this gives the impression that you’re hiding something. If you place your hands on the table, don’t squeeze them too tightly, or leave them flat with your palms down. This makes people feel like you want to control them ! Also, don’t forget about the role that culture plays here. while gently folding your hands on the table is totally okay in the Western world, this position is considered rude in Japan and India. Do your research on the customs and culture before you visit another country. This will help you avoid any uncomfortable situations. number 10 : chewing gum You’ve got to admit that it’s incredibly annoying, and distracting, when you’re talking to someone, and they’re chomping on a piece of gum ! Put this irritating behavior into a formal situation, or a first time encounter with someone, and it becomes even more inappropriate. Chewing on gum, makes you look immature, self-centered, and somewhat lowbrow ! So don’t even think about it for a job interview. You want to show your best qualities, not your indifference towards your potential employer ! On the flip side, a new study has found that in casual situations, people chewing gum are usually perceived as more friendly and approachable. So be careful with this one, it can either help or hurt you. number 9 : avoiding eye contact. Eye contact has an unbelievably powerful influence on how we view someone. A 2007 study, showed that people who maintain eye contact during a conversation, are often seen as more confident, attentive, intelligent, and trustworthy. People that avoid eye contact, on the other hand, are viewed as less sincere, more anxious, and even unattractive ! it doesn’t mean you have to stare people down like a creep, Just don’t be afraid to lock eyes with another person from time to time, instead of constantly looking around ! Especially when you meet them for the first time. number 8 : playing with your hair Statistics show that women touch their hair up to 18 times a day ! That’s fine, if you’re fixing it in the mirror. But if you play with your hair while talking to someone, you could be sending them the wrong message. First of (it) : they might think you’re flirting with them ! But more importantly, a person who toys with their hair during a conversation, looks unconfident, anxious, and uncomfortable. Traits that are especially undesirable in official situations. And when playing with your hair becomes excessively repetitive, it can even be a sign of OCD ! If you tend to do this when you’re nervous, try to kick this habit. It’ll do you and your hair a lot of good. Number 7 : picking the wrong conversation topics. In order to avoid the dreaded, awkward silence, a lot of people are ready to talk about anything with someone they’ve just met. But you never know what subjects can make someone feel uncomfortable. So it’s better to play it safe, and avoid the general TABOO topics out there. They include health problems, money, religion, politics, or personal problems and complaints. Try not to focus the conversation only on yourself, and your issues. That’s what therapists are for ! It’s always a good idea to be attentive to your conversation partner. A good listener, is always highly appreciated. Number 6 : invading someone’s personal space Just as there are certain lines you shouldn’t cross when it comes to conversation topics, the same goes for personal space. Experts put it simply : the space between you and another person, depends on your relationship, AND the situation. There’s a certain distance for close friends and family, one for informal conversations, and another for formal interactions. When it comes to meeting someone for the first time, keep a minimum of four feet between the two of you. If you stand too close to them, you may come off as aggressive. But if you stand too far away, you seem uninterested. Just try to find a happy medium, and stick to it. number 5 : making distracting noises We’ve all been in a room with someone who constantly taps their foot, or fingers or drums their pen on the desk ! And if you do any of these things, you’re not only annoying everyone, no offense, you’re also giving them the wrong impression about you ! Tapping can indicate nervousness, irritation, or impatience. People might even think that you’re purposely trying to irritate others, or draw attention to yourself. And while cracking your knuckles can help relieve stress, It’s one of the most annoying sounds, according to a survey, by the New York Times. It can be nearly impossible to control nervous tapping, but you have to try, especially during important meetings or presentations. number 4 : constantly checking your phone In the age of social media, and 24/7 access to the Internet, we’ve become addicted to our gadgets ! In fact, an Android app called Locket, collected information, and found that the average person checks their phone a hundred and ten times a day ! Even if you’re just checking the time on your screen, it comes off as extremely impolite, when you do it during a conversation. the other person gets the impression that they’re boring you, and you seem to have better things to do. A study from the University of Essex, showed that even just having one’s phone on the table next to them, reduces a conversation’s quality, and the participants engagement. So leave it in your bag, or in your pocket. Period ! Number 3 : forgetting people’s names Probably the most embarrassing thing you can do, when you see someone is to forget their name. And it’s especially humiliating if they remember yours. To steer clear of this awkward situation, get into the habit of immediately repeating someone’s name after you’ve been introduced, like : Hi Anne ! Nice to meet you. Justifying this faux pas with excuses about having a bad memory, or being terrible with names, won’t cut it. And when it DOES happen, Just play it cool, and try to avoid using phrases where you have to name the other person, That should do the trick. Number 2 : being late Well your best friend might kid you that you’re always so fashionably late. There’s nothing to joke about it when it comes to first impressions, and being tardy. Running late to a meeting with people you don’t know, or have a formal relationship with, will shed a guaranteed negative light on you. You’ll seem like an unreliable and unorganized person, that doesn’t respect people enough to value their time ! Nothing good about any of that. So, if you don’t want that mass to be the way people view you, don’t be late ! It’s that easy. Leave your house in enough time so that you don’t have to run to your meeting. You’ll be all disheveled and unfocused, and that looks bad, too ! There are tons of online resources to learn better time management skills, so make use of them ! number 1 : the wrong attire Whether we like it or not, people do judge a book by its cover. And remember, they do it within seven seconds of setting eyes on us ! There’s not much you can say within this time, which proves that a lot of assumptions people make, are based purely off of looks. In fact, statistics claim that 55 percent of the first impression, is based on appearance. What’s more, studies show that your height, weight, hair color, and makeup, can even influence the size of your paycheck. So if you’re meeting someone for the very first time, again, especially in more formal situations, try to be conservative in your choice of clothing, be polished, and don’t use heavy perfume, or tons of makeup. You don’t have to dress to the nines or anything, just look neat and well put together. What else do you think can ruin a first impression ? Tell us in the comment section below. Don’t forget to share this video with your friends and family. They need to know how to leave a good impression too ! Stay on the bright side of life, and we’ll see you soon.
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A weak handshake 0:38
Keeping your hands in the wrong position 1:25
Chewing gum 2:15
Avoiding eye-contact 3:01
Playing with your hair 3:41
Picking the wrong conversation topics 4:25
Invading someoneβs personal space 5:07
Making distracting noises 5:49
Constantly checking your phone 6:34
Forgetting peopleβs names 7:23
Being late 8:00
The wrong attire 8:47
Had one person want to interview me outside so he could vape & first ? out of his mouth do I want a hit. Next was everyone here smokes so would you interrupt me during a break like now. This was a time scheduled interview, that he set the appointment for. Told him have a great day & walked, keep in mind this was a District Manager for Walmart interviewing me for management position over Loss Prevention for 17 stores. I would rather empty septic tanks than work for ANY company that interviews like that
I don't like handshakes its bacteria infestation galore… I'm good don't touch me…
7:17 Leave it in your bag, or in your pocket. PERIODT.
Not talk loud so that everyone could here lol…
They said on the other video that first impression lasts 30 seconds, then 7 seconds on this video. What really is it?!?
xin chan thanh cam on
Thank you bright side
Also….a sweaty hand! π« and ALWAYS look the person in the eyes when shaking their hand. Iβve seen so many men look away at that vital time.
I still think handshakes are weird things we do as humans lol
Awkward Smile, Bad breath this also get into first impressions. Was a good Video..
All these are western or European thing. Especially trying to judge people in one hour interview and expecting to be formal. Being formal is like "you don't have to do but you do it because others are doing". Wearing coat, tie and shoe during the hot summer. It is crazy. That is not the way the eastern culture was, though it is changing for the bad now. Oh Man think where are we going … why we make life difficult for ourselves.
Well, the first impression is very important especially when you are applying for a job. It is also important when you communicate with others.
Youre wrong with #1. I hate when people shake hands firmly. People do it now to show they are confident or alpha but its a pure sign of desperation. I fire weak people like this from my life right away. Youre also wrong about the eye contact. There are some people you can look in the eyes and some people you shouldnt. Some people will have eye battles with you and their attention steers toward competion for alpha rather than the conversation. I allow weak people like these to feel like winners by looking elsewhere myself in order to continue the conversation.
Ppl with bad breath always talk the closest to you π¨
My tooth look dirty. I tried all the way to make it look clean but no method worked. What should I do now?
What about farting in an interview? To me that seems embarrassing and ruins first impression…..
So it's all about being a good actor then? because that's basically
what this is saying. Just be yourself and if people don't like it they
can get stuffed. I've no desire to work for such pretentious tossers
anyway.
Very wonderful and interesting video
What if you have ADHD
how about using foul language like swear words
This may seem a bit odd but if I had the power to and if I went for an job interview and didnβt get it then Iβd become a tyrant just to make people respect me
Playing with your hair may mean many of those things on a psychological level..not a 100% sure on that..but if i think about it..i would most likely see it as flirting..or more so as a nervous reaction through awkwardness.
What i am sure about… Is that playing with your hair stimulates blood flow..and does increase the rate of which hair grows..provided there is hair..
6:08 OMG Those shoes!!!.. where can i get them?
Always correcting people
Body odor is a big no-no! Filthy cheese teeth is disgusting, and yapping too much really fast about pointless things is also taxing.
Oh yeah, make sure your boogers are not hanging out of your nose. Food crumbs at corner of mouth is also gross.
Excellent
Thank you Bright side
One thing is always having to have the first word and the last word when meeting somebody.
What colors dresses can wear for interview for girls
The thing which ruin our whole of the life is:
'fear of impression'
I got to know more things after watching this video. Really impressed!
That explains Megan Markle's OCD with her constant hair petting. She's insecure and OCD.
5:42
Bad breath
Fabulous video
For thugs like me we do things you say us not to do!
Be who you are don't fake it until you make it
No 11 that body language is not rude to India
This does not sound legit.
One thing I have noticed is that men do not shake a woman's hand the same way they would shake another man's hand. I find that more and more men are gently grasping my fingers while I am leading with my whole hand. It's awkward.
Don't always be serious, a smileπ€ is very important in Arab countries ββ
Thanks friend for sharing inspirational ideas and useful tips….
8:10 she is so pretty ππ
Really…
12 – a weak handshake
11-keeping hands in wrong position
10-chewing gum
9- avoiding eye contact
8-playing with your hair
7-picking wrong conversation topics
6-invading someone's personal space
5-making distracting noises
4-constantly checking your phone
3- forgetting people's names
2-being late
1- wrong attire
You're welcome π
How about having a wrong grammar?
0:11 racist alert
You…. yes you only the one who hv great personality according to u ..
Very nice
The last one… Well dressing
If I have a good character and love and good wish for people no matter to stick on those rules.
Make sure You wore a good shoes,sandals….etc bcoz somebody will look at these things.
These rules are not for Pakistanis we don't judge peoples how they speak how they looks we give equal respect to everyone
Smile
Awesome videoπ
At my first interview
I tried to maintain eye contact for too long and they thought i was cross eyed
I'm gone
What about guys pinching or playing with their beard is that a sign of a bad impression
On the executive level…… I like taking our prospective employees to lunch. The way they interact with the staff will speak volumes about them.
13) Bad or unpleasant smell.
14) Smiling too much or never smile
15) Speaking too fast (considered as insecure)
16) stammering too much
17) touching your face for no reason too much
7:19 what's the purpose of saying period at the end of phraseπ€
Smell good too
nice video sir
Nic sir
stare down your interviewer like a creep, intimidate them and keep looking in their eyes, make them feel uncomfortable to the point where they start getting irritated, push them out of there comfort zone, don't shy to engage in argument with them if they have any sort of disagreement with what you doing.. These r few of the qualities of the leaders which kept them away from taking on any kind of positions in organization. And if you want to take on those positions then just refrain yourself from doing aforementioned, how hard is that?
4:53 Trust me. Make up won't make you attractive
How about men grooming style?
Hello
Please avoid the use of immodest and inappropriately dressed females. Disaster.
The heavy use of "I can" in my opinion.
These are all true…we send in great candidates but some get nervous and make these mistakes. Sadly, hiring managers sometimes choose better interviewers over better candidates. A great handshake is great but someone who didnβt practice that may actually add more value to the company
THANK YOU BRIGHT SIDE
At @2.53, the front girl is very beautiful. I am wondering who is she?
whoever you are, just get out there and show em how it's done! always be yourself and confident, just don't be fake!
SELF DISIPLINE
π π π Thumbs up if youβre reading the comments, π while listening to the video! π π π
7:24
SPIDER-MAN : "I'm sorry I can't remember anyone's name!"
smile
Sees the guy in the thumbnail:
His suit says bad impression all over it! π
Sir .I am in Indian .I not speak confidential English so could you please create some videos
Really what I thought about someone chewing gum, they were talking to me and all I thought that they were self centered. Lol he was probably nervous tho, just like fidgeting
Donald trump need to learn the first step
A bhojpuri ringtone
The people who are crooks will fool u no matter what u do.
Bad breath
one more thing is that when you are talking with anyone for the first time try not to become so much exited on any thing that will make them think that you are sincere enough .and dont just keep silent like a wall or stufed to try to react on what people are telling you something other wise they might think that you are so boaring .you let them take their turn also to speak you dont just keep takimg other wise they will note give you enough importance.
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9. As an autistic woman, eye contact is uncomfortable to maintain, and I would rather look at someone's mouth and clearly understand what they are saying and answer correctly, than look them in the eye and not hear a word they say.
8. Playing with my hair is a stim to reduce stress etc, it's not a "habit" I can kick, it's subconscious.
The Tone of your voice can also spoil the first impression
Really with the handshake ? Friends flash back. Who chews gum during a job interview ? They nailed me with the name thing. Iβm always on time. If youβre late to an interview go might as well not go .
I did the hands on the table thing and got the job, whoops.
Be whaterever your like to be, when your are single. But,
When your facing a person u should be attentive and make proper eye contact and avoid distractions between the conversations. I think that First impression is best impression you have attract a person with u way of talking and get attention from him. When u have Smelling problem with your mouth please avoid oil food and use mouthwash before and after going to bed .
Don't let your crush see you vaping or doing any vices
Hey
Farting
keep a sincere
smile on your face
Shoes
DONT JUDGE A BOOK BY ITS COVER.
I am watching this so my teachers won't hate me π
just my face can ruin a first impression ππππππ